Showing posts with label hinduism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hinduism. Show all posts

Friday, August 24, 2012

93; A PSA on Small Businesses











Dress: The Dead Zone, Hyannis ☯ Belt: Tunnel Vision ☯ Boots: Aldo Shoes ☯ Seashell choker: Moon Dragon Designs Chain and bead bib: Target Earrings: DIY Elephant necklace: Etsy vintage





Someone asked me on my post before last if the seashell choker was of my creation...it is not, but the lady who made it lives in town and I linked to her website up there. She makes great stuff, and does custom orders, so I urge you to check her shop out! I'm actually wearing a large sized anklet that I added a tiny bit of extra chain to.

90% of this ensemble has been outfitted by small business products! This is why I love to support small businesses -- they offer unique products, amazing customer service, and you know your money is going to deserving, hard-working people. But you know what I have discovered? That some small businesses are just as money-hungry and two-faced as big retail corporations, especially in tourist/vacation areas. I urge you to read the daunting text wall below, only so that you can better understand what I have recently been through.

I am typically very excited to visit Hyannis at the Cape on the summers that I am able to go, and what I am eager to do most of all is shop. There are some wonderful stores where hippie/bohemian clothes can be found, India Clothing being one of my key favourites. For two summers we drove by one shop, The Dead Zone, but we never managed to actually stop by. Last month I was very happy when I was out with Kathryn and her sister and we finally made a point to check it out on our last day on the coast. Lookin at all of their clothes, jewelry, and wall tapestries, I was already enchanted into taking some stuff home, and when they told me how they do rewards cards -- every ten dollars spent deserves a stamp, and after ten stamps, you get a discount -- I was all over that.

The Dead Zone is where I purchased this dress. Well, I meant to purchase it, and a few other items, but it turned out that my debit card was declined. It was a few days before pay day and I hadn't kept the keenest eye on my balance. Kathryn was buying some stuff for her and her sister, and was kind enough to put my stuff on her card and told me I could pay her back on payday. Awesome.

So the lady rang the order up, which came out to over a hundred dollars. Kathryn and I looked at each other expectantly. This meant we could get a fully stamped discount card to bring back later in the summer, or perhaps next summer, to get a discount on our next purchase! Everything worked out for the best!

Until the lady pulled out two separate cards, and stamped six stamps on one, and five on the other, and handed them to each of us. Since, you know, sixty dollars of the order was my stuff that Kathryn had just paid for.

We were furious. It didn't matter that sixty dollars worth of the order was what I would have bought -- Kathryn was the one that shelled out over a hundred dollars to cover my declined card and the fact that her sister didn't have any money for the dress she wanted. That's a single order made by one customer. They didn't hand her sister a card with two stamps on it because Kathryn was paying for her dress! And honestly, the dress I bought and am wearing here was bought with the idea of sharing it with Kathryn -- I also bought a wall tapestry for our shared room, so neither product was 100% for me alone.

So they made a big deal about this discount card only to split it up between the customer paying, and a person that wasn't paying, preventing us from actually aquiring this discount which would have ensured our return. I understand the idea, that the manager probably wants us to come back and spend more money before we are able to get some freebies out of them, but honestly? I'm not going back there on my next trip, because that's a skeezy practice. It doesn't matter how many girls walked into the store and picked stuff out. If one of them is covering the cost, it's that one person's bill.


I have become rather irked by the business practices in some of the places in Hyannis... The evening before this mishap, one restaurant had an alarmingly aggressive reaction when we three shared a couple of orders of food, instead of ordering three main (and highly expensive) entrées, and the waiter (who we were 90% sure was also the owner) gave us cold glares and would barely tell us the time of day. Last summer I found a booth selling Native American jewelry, and upon inquiring over the price of a broken choker, the man said he would sell it to me discounted and "would throw on a charm to it as well." When he was finished and I handed him the fifteen dollars I had been told the necklace would be, he told me it would be an extra nine dollars for the charm he had attached onto it, and was taken aback when I had told him how he lead me to believe it would be free. I begrudgingly hashed out the extra near ten dollars for the small bone-carved feather pendant, only because I had just bought a pair of earrings from him an hour prior and they matched this specific charm.

The saddest part is, there is no real way of knowing if you'll be caught in these expensive, headache-inducing traps by small business owners until you've already been lured in by the quaint charm and friendly smiles. It's not even entirely a question of "you live and learn," there are no real cues you can pick up early on in the exchange that are red-light indicators that this person is just waiting to wring some extra cash out of you. You just have go to in blindly, and see what the experience in that one situation ends up being. When you find a place that is reliable, wonderful; become a repeat customer and support their cause. When you find places like these, that twist the rules and deceive you, or treat you terribly because you're working with a frugal allowance and choose the more money conscious route for dinner and somehow offend them because they're a small business so obviously they need the money so how dare you not abide by that, however...the best you can do is walk out of that building more aware, and I suppose all you can do is make sure that other future patrons aren't manipulated the same way you had just been.

Business owners would not survive without their customers, and when they treat their customers poorly, they aren't deserving of their time or support.


Ugh, I have so many other notes about this outfit...like how I wore this for a very special holiday -- Naag Panchami (which explains the bindi business) -- or how I was wearing this when, for the first time ever, I caught someone in public pointing and laughing behind their hand at what I was wearing. I feel as though this post is long enough as it is, so if you have questions, as always, hit me up on Formspring.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

89; Does anyone love the way they are?












Dress: c/o SheInside.com • Flannel: Don't even remember • Vest: DIY • Beanie: convenience store • Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell Stevie • Necklaces: Ganesha (borrowed) and crescent moon (new age shop)





Kathryn harassed me that I should put the last two photos on here. Fine. There. Happy now, Kathryn?

My choice of necklaces was symbolic, reflecting one of the few stories in Hinduism explaining why Ganesha only has one tusk. (Source) It's a story of how he overindulged himself on food given to him by devotees, and on his ride home his steed (the rat he is typically drawn being with) stumbles over a snake, and when Ganesha falls, his belly splits open and all of the sweets fall out. Watching this, the Moon (who according to legend always shone every night) laughs at him, and he takes his tusk and throws it at her, and curses her to never shine again. She disappears from the sky and the balance is disrupted, leaving the sun to always shine. The gods come to Ganesha to have him resolve the issue, and he brings the Moon back, but on the condition that she wax and wane, and can not shine during certain points each month. (New moon.) I just love the silliness of it, and the incorporation of trying to explain why the moon waxes, wanes, becomes full, and disappears from the sky.

I am really ridiculous.

I got this dress courtesy of She Inside. I'm a little late to hopping on the 'maxi dress bandwagon' but whatever. It's fun to use as a canvas for grunging up. I haven't worn one in like, almost a year? They're sort of a challenge for me, in terms of styling them. I can do A LOT when I can mix up the top and bottom to an outfit, but if it's all one entity, I have to get a little more creative -- and if you guys know me (and you probably do) then you'll know how lazy I am.

Still, black's a great colour in terms of clothing, and this just jumped out at me! I immediately knew I had to wear this with a denim vest and beanie, and either flannel or a hoodie. Since I'm lacking in hoodies that aren't incredibly oversized on me (comically so), I went for flannel.

I consulted Formspring as to whether or not to wear Stevies or Creepers with this. The general concensus was Creepers, but I was just loving how the Stevies looked, and I just felt that it was almost too predictable to wear Creepers with this outfit. I like the idea that the 'character' of this outfit is a total babe who loves grunge, but she only has girlyass clothes in her arsenal like dresses and platform heels.

Salia Ren put it beautifully in response to my Formspring question:

"Even though I'm not usually a fan of the Stevie/Lita shape, I'd still go with the Stevies! :-) Gives a different, pretty rad vibe to the outfit. With the creepers, the outfit kind of slurs, "Hey man. 'ts up man. Rock on." *rock hand formation* in a way that I would probably expect. With the Stevies, the outfit turns into some ensemble for a grunge rock diva, and instead of slurring, it might say (in a slightly high-pitched but raspy voice), "'ts up man?! ROCK ON BABY!" *rock hand formation showcasing totally posh long nails but with black chipped nail polish on them* Irresistible."

YOU UNDERSTAND ME.


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Sunday, January 1, 2012

68; Om Namah Shivaya (New Year's Eve)









Jacket: Maurices • Top: French Connection UK • Pants: Bullhead (for Pac Sun) • Docs + blue vile necklace: eBay • Head scarf: Fanneuil Hall, Boston • Naga earrings: SOULMATES (coming soon) • Spike fringe earrings: Hot Topic • Coyote vertebrae necklace: DIY • Crystal ring: Hivennn • Evil eye bracelet: Waloosi's Emporium • Bone carved bracelet: antique






Kathryn had this brill idea for new year's eve: perform puja (a ritual with offerings) for Shiva, Hindu god of destruction, famous for his dance of creation. The idea was to shed off the old, the past year, to make way for the new and upcoming year. We set up our 'shine' (the surface of our dresser) for Shiva, complete with a lingam for Shiva (a large smoky quartz point) and offerings of flowers. If you've ever seen him, he is depicted with blue/grey skin, and it is said it is because he spends his times in graveyards and is covered in ashes from cremated bodies. Basically, he's the gothic death-obsessed metal-as-fuck god of the group. Based on this, we bought three candles to burn: blue, black, and white. (They had no grey, so we had to improvise.)

Thus, I decided to wear dark, muted colours. I was going to wear my dark blue leopard print dress -- perfect both for the colour, and because he is drawn wearing a leopard print cloth -- but I wore this to go out to the Oriental market and just fell in love with the outfit. In the last photo, I'm half-assedly trying to imitate Shiva meditating:

Fun fact: the spout of water coming out of his hair is the Ganges.

This is also why I decided to wear so many bones (you know, like how I usually do on a normal day): his signature death aspect, especially the Naga earrings I've been working on. Also, the blue vile necklace, which contains some ashes from my deceased cat, who died in 2007 from cancer. Symbolic for a few reasons, obviously.

Kathryn and I wanted to fast for the day, only consuming fruits and milk as one would for something like this, but with her being sick and me being 95 lbs, we ended up deciding to not. We ate Indian cuisine for lunch (Punjab Eggplant and spiced vegetables) and Japanese for dinner (vegetarian mushroom buns), as well as a crapton of tea throughout the day. We attempted to clean the room; made an impact, and took down our Christmas tree, but didn't accomplish as much as we wanted to. Basically, it's not so much clean as it is less messy. We did perform our puja, and our set up was lovely.

Smoky quartz point as our Shiva lingam, with a Ganesha beside it, per puja standards. In the background you can see many other Ganeshas, as well as a baby Krishna. We sort of love Ganesha a lot; that, and finding Vishnu figures is a pain in the ass.


Making our new year's eve dinner was great. Our trip to the Oriental market was a huge success -- they typically end in disappointment since we can't read Japanese or Korean, so what we pick out usually aren't to our taste -- and I had gone out on a limb to buy some vegetarian mushroom buns.

 (I had to perform a shirt change for the evening, as the owners of the house prefer the place to be on the chillier side.)





Hello, Kathryn's hands!

These. Things. Are so delicious. I was leery at first, because a lot of imported Asian food is chock full of preservatives, yet these had no preservatives in them and were frozen. How awesome is that? If you have an Asian market near you, I highly recommend these. They're Chimei brand, and even if you can't locate them, see if there's an equivilent; the ingredients list should be in English. (Hopefully!)

The bummer about NYE: being scheduled to work the next morning at 6 am, meaning having to get up at 5. SUUUCKS!

Resolutions: get a new job (my current one is just killing everything inside me), learn more German (I have been terrible about this!), read more books, and learn to use my sewing machine. I kind of hate having just one resolution. I want to make sure I'm kept busy for the whole year. Oh, and to do more bicycle crunches. I am so wimpy about exercising.

Did I accomplish any of the resolutions I set for myself this year? Aside from getting a job...not really.


Stay tuned for the next post; I have a giveaway coming up!




Friday, April 15, 2011

14; This is where I become a total geek.

I had been shopping on Lulu*s daydreaming as if I had enough money for anything on their site (well, I guess I kind of do, but I really have trouble lately with finding anything I like immediately) and stumbled upon this amazing tank top:


Insight's "Chakra" tank -- not pictured: chakras, interestingly enough, but it's showing what appears to be some awesome depiciton of what I initially gathered was a woman ascending into nirvana or something to that effect, which still won points with me. I can dig that. Plus the artwork's pretty awesome and I love the colours.

However...it's $45.00. I can't dig that.

So, I threw it into my Amazon wishlist, knowing no one would look (probably because I haven't linked it anywhere in a while) and I might not ever spend that much money (god know's how much the grand total would be with shipping).

The next morning I'm scrolling through my Amazon wishlist to check up on how much the camera I'm planning to buy is when I see this tank, and Kathryn's home, so I decide to show it to her. With her behind me on the bed, she asks me to pull up the close-up image of the tank, and proceeds to ask me, "what god is that?"

I blink. I hadn't really thought to ask myself that question when I looked at it the day before. I look back at the image, trying to overlook what looks to me to be a woman, for some clues. Maybe it's Lakshmi or something, y'know? Lets see, seven-headed snake, a conch shell in the right hand, oh look, a symbolic chakra (discus) in the left...


...Oh wait, it's Vishnu. Well, hell yeah! Suddenly, $45.00 is a price I'm willing to pay  for this tank; why? I seriously, really love Vishnu. Out of all the gods, even out of the the Creator (Brahma), the Preserver (Vishnu), and the Destroyer (Shiva), Vishnu's my favourite. I love the stories about him and his kindness towards humanity and the creatures that they share the earth with. He's this overall nice guy who protects everyone and is basically the most compassionate dude around. And yet, he isn't above having to actually fight if need be. (As seen in his incarnation, Rama, who's totally badass.)

I just really like this certain god. (I may even have a couple of more personal reasons for liking him.) Though, my second favourite is Ganesha, because he and his story are just so adorable...once you get past Shiva having decapitated him as a kid (mostly by mistake) and then having to find him a replacement head, which explains why he's depicted with an elephant head. Otherwise, he's kind of like "the ICanHasCheezburger? of Hinduism." (In Kathryn's words.)

But I digress. This tank top and I were fated  to be mated, and guess where I found it for $37.50? I worry a small won't fit, though (going off of Lulu*s measurement of a small) and yet, this site offers an extra small...but why doesn't Lulu*s? Did they sell out, or not order extra smalls? Well, whatever. I'll place the order next week for an extra small and hope it all works out.

Now, if I can find an online coupon for free shipping, or something...


EDIT: well, a size 2 (small) sold out on Lulu*s. Now I'm worried it'll sell out on the other site before next week. Geesh...I do have enough money for it, I'd just rather not spend that much at the moment. We'll see what I decide.

EDIT 2: okay, I ordered it...only because I have this bad luck about waiting to buy something and going back to find it's gone.