Overshirt: Vantage Point Vintage • Top: JC Penny • Shorts: Forever21 • Belt: Etsy • Boots: Etsy • Jewelery: Crescent moon pendant (Omen in Salem), pendulum (DIY), sapphire engagement ring (fiancée)
Recently I've run into some...disagreements on a little personal style community page I visit every so often to post my looks to, a place where I've met some pretty awesome people, including one of my favourite bloggers, Louise of Art and Ghosts. Where the negativity that I'm seeing that was not present a month ago is being generated from, I am not entirely sure. People feel compelled to post their disapproving remarks to a few of my outfits and either don't offer many suggestions -- just plainly saying "I don't like it" -- or suggest that I change my style completely. I've been told that my most recent outfit is "unwearable" in terms of social practicality -- and yet, twice have I seen two seperate women there post outfits wearing black lace seethrough tops (one being a body suit) bearing it all, and the general reaction was enthusiasm and approval (except for a few polite remarks that perhaps it wasn't entirely appropriate to wear in public, but nothing as abrasive as what I've been treated to).
I'm kind of lost on the idea that one person's opinions on fashion can and is used like a piece of fact. What's more, I don't understand why some people feel compelled to be rude, either. Just last night before turning in, I received a comment on said page from someone on my most recent outfit, and the comment was simply: "Ahahaha, what" -- without any identifiable context, or punctuation for that matter. Yes, "what", exactly? I am dying to know.
This isn't me just having a hard time taking criticism -- I don't get dressed every day trying to figure out what combination of clothes will make the most people like me. Clothes and fashion are an art form to me; I wear what looks interesting for my enjoyment, whether or not it's 'conventional', so if people wish to voice that they think my outfits are terrible, I am completely open to it. What rubs me the wrong way is when people suggest I change to fit their style preferences, or choose to respond with catty, immature remarks. Some people just can't fathom respect for other people, and I suppose it has to do with the sense of 'anonymity' that sitting behind a computer screen can give someone. A person's opinion on a matter is not fact, especially when it comes to personal style.
I know, it's just the internet and most of it is bull anyway, but that doesn't make the negativity any less annoying. Its irritation may only reach the equivalent of a mosquito bite on my conscience, but it still lingers a bit to get on my nerves.
I simply wanted to write this out so that what little audience I have here will take a moment to observe one of the pitfalls of fashion blogging on the internet. My resolution to this problem? I'm leaving the site. I know I will be tempted to go back after a while, as it is on a website that I have been on for years (Livejournal), but lately most communities have been filling up with very negative people anyway, and has since made my visits to LJ much less rewarding this year.
I just hope that you who are reading this will, in the future, will be respectful of others when trying to put across to them that, for example, what they're wearing is less than favourable, and choose to say so to help them, not to aggravate them. However, I doubt I will have to do much convincing to those who read my blog, as I've only ever seen respect and support from you lovely people. ♥
Onto more important issues: the winner of the pendulum necklace will be...drawn tomorrow, because I mucked up on another website where I posted about the event, and said the winner would be drawn on Saturday, which is tomorrow. I would rather not be unfair to anyone finding out about this giveaway through that website. I am dumb, I know. Sorry!
Also, it seems to be that my page links beneath my blog's header image are missing. Gahh.